I’m a trans dad who gave birth to two sons. Trans pregnancy alone carries years of questioning, fear, pride, and love. It holds the weight of a journey that forced me to rethink everything I was taught about my body and what it was “allowed” to do.
Learning to Doubt My Body
For a long time, I felt insecure about my body’s ability to carry a child. Not because I didn’t want to be a parent, but because being trans often comes with an unspoken list of limitations. I absorbed the idea that my body was something to work around, not something that could support something as profound as creating life.
The Message That Tried to Define Me
I was repeatedly told that having children meant I couldn’t be a trans man. That I had to choose one identity or the other — be a mother or be a man. Those messages were loud, persistent, and damaging. They made me question whether my desire to have children somehow invalidated who I was.
Wanting Fatherhood Without Compromise
Despite everything, one truth remained clear: I wanted to be a father. Not as a role I settled into, but as an identity that felt true to me. The question wasn’t if I wanted children — it was how I could have them without losing myself in the process.
The Realization That Changed Everything
The turning point came when I stopped comparing myself to cis men. I realized something simple but powerful: I’m not a cis man — I’m a trans man. That understanding shifted everything. My experience didn’t need to mirror anyone else’s to be valid. My body didn’t need to function like a cis man’s body to affirm my identity.
Pregnancy and Dysphoria
Pregnancy was not easy. It brought dysphoria in ways I had never experienced before. My body changed quickly and visibly, and that visibility often felt overwhelming. There were moments of deep discomfort and emotional strain as I navigated pregnancy in a world that wasn’t built to understand trans men in that space.
When My Identity Became Stronger
Somewhere in the middle of it all, I realized my identity hadn’t disappeared — it had solidified. Pregnancy didn’t erase my manhood. It didn’t weaken my sense of self. Instead, it rooted me more deeply in who I am. Being a trans man is what made it possible for me to have my children.
A Truth I Stand In
I’m not a cis man. I’m a trans man. And I’m a father. Those truths coexist without contradiction. They inform one another, strengthen one another, and tell a story that deserves to be seen.
What I Want Others to Know
Going through pregnancy as a trans man is hard. It’s complex, emotional, and often isolating. But it is possible. And it does not make you any less of who you are. If anything, it can expand your understanding of your body, your identity, and your strength in ways you never expected.
Thank you for taking the time to read my story. If you want to follow along for more honest reflections on transgender pregnancy, fatherhood, and identity, you’re always welcome here.
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