“What do your kids call you… after you gave birth to them?”
I’m a man, and I gave birth to my children. Becoming a father wasn’t an accident—it was intentional. Pregnancy wasn’t a “woman’s role” for me; it was the biological road I could take to become a parent. I didn’t stop being myself, even though I had to pause my transition. I was a man doing something hard because it mattered. And so I became not just transgender man but a trans dad.
The Struggles of Being a Pregnant Man
Being pregnant in a world that assumes every pregnant person is a woman comes with unique challenges: the stares, the misgendering, and the constant need to decide when to correct people and when to protect my own peace. Some days were isolating, some days frustrating, and some days just plain hard.
Those Moments That Make It All Worth It
Then there are the moments that make everything else fade away: my kids running into the room, laughing, and yelling “Dad!” like it’s the most natural thing in the world. No hesitation, no explanation—just love and certainty. I’m not a trans dad to them. To them I’m just a dad.
Being a Trans Dad Is Everything
Being their father isn’t just something I’m proud of—it’s the truest confirmation of who I am. The role that fits me most honestly. The one that feels like home.
A Message to Other Trans Parents
My story isn’t meant to convince anyone. It’s just real. And if you’re a trans person wondering whether your path to parenthood can exist outside the boxes people expect—know this: it can. And it’s worth it.
If you want to know more about my experiences with pregnancy and being a father as a trans man check out more of my blog post here!
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